Thinking about her day and night? Drooling over her pictures whenever she is not around? You have millions of conversation topics to talk to her in your head but when she is physically present, you only manage to go as far as hello? Don’t worry, we’re here to help. Here are some tips you should consider.
Keep your calm
It’s natural to panic and get stressed out whenever you are in front of the girl you like-especially if you have not told her anything about your feelings yet. However it’s important to keep your cool and remain composed when she is around. Girls don’t like men who are shy, lack self control and more important of all; men who are not confident.
Importance of first impression
It only takes a few minutes of your first conversation with her to determine what position you are going to hold in her life-friend, acquaintance or loser! So if you are talking to her for the first time, you better play your cards right. Do not start flirting with her the moment you open your mouth or start right away with a compliment. Introducing yourself in a humble way is a good start. Avoid saying something like, “Hi, I bet you know me, all girls around here know me” Complement this line with a devilish wink and you will forever be stuck in the loser zone!
Once you have introduced yourself, start a friendly conversation with her and try to know more about her. Do not ask her for any personal details yet (address, phone number etc). Instead try to keep the conversation as general as possible but still focused on her. The idea of keeping the focus on her is to tell her that you are interested in her.
Talk about yourself
Note here we said talk about yourself-do not brag about your achievements. Tell her what you do in life and how you ended up in the place you are right now-say for example you are at a party, it may be a good idea for example to say who you’re friends with. Having friends in common can actually work in your favor-through words of mouth, she may learn what a great guy you are (assuming you are one).
Establish a connection
You like her-but she does not know that yet. The chances of having her fall head over heels for you are likely to be higher if she finds that you share something in common. During the conversation, pay attention to the details. For example if she says she loves swimming, tell her how often you participated in swimming competitions when you were at school or tell her about that new swimming jammer you are interested in. However, don’t stop her at every point of the conversation-showing too much interest and trying too hard to show that you share something in common may actually end up looking fake and demonstrate how desperate you are to get her attention.
Additionally, some difference in opinions may actually appear more interesting. You don’t have to agree to everything she says. Girls like boys who are have a say of their own on any topic and don’t just go with whatever everybody else is saying.
Show appreciation for her company
You have introduced yourself, talked to her and at least made the first step towards her. Now it’s time to make it evident that you are not here to be friends with her and be her shopping-buddy! Start flirting and make your way out of the Friend Zone. A good way to start is by telling her how much you appreciate her company. If you are confident enough and you feel that the moment is right, lean closer to her and whisper “Thanks for making this night special. Your company adds to the magic of this evening.” After saying this, she must be really dumb not to know what your genuine intentions are regarding her.
Make her feel special
Girls love it when they are the centre of all attention-although they tend to say the exact opposite. Make her feel special and give her the attention she needs. For example, if you are at a bar, ask her which drinks to order and compliment her about her taste.
Throw in the compliments
Few minutes earlier, you were absolute strangers, now she is sitting with you, enjoying your company, laughing at your jokes and sharing more about her life. Don’t just stand there and be her laughing monkey. Take things one step ahead and start complimenting her. This is precisely where most guys fail, not knowing what to say and when! Don’t just say anything that comes to you mind-find something that fits the ambiance. For instance, if a light breeze brushed her silky hair, tell her how beautiful her hair is and you feel like running your fingers through them. In an indoor situation, compliment her about her dress-girls take hours to dress up and don’t appreciate it when all their efforts go unnoticed. However, while complimenting her, be specific. Don’t just say, “This dress is beautiful”. Instead tell her “This red dress suits your perfectly, there’s a glow about you that I can’t explain”
Finding the right words is not enough-complement all of this with the appropriate body language. While she is talking, look deep in her eyes and smile. At some point in the conversation, stop her and tell her something like, “I love that sparkle in your eyes whenever you talk about your college life” Adding this line will be a signal to her that you are looking for more than just friendship and you actually pay attention to all the details about her.
While talking to her, always keep in mind that after this conversation, she needs to know that you are completely mesmerized by her. You do not want to be another friend with whom she’ll hang out whenever her girly friends are not around. Approach her in confidence, show interest in whatever she is saying and flirt with her when the right opportunity comes up.