Negging is a very effective technique that you can use to bring self-esteem and confidence of a girl down to a workable level. It does not mean insulting her or destroying her confidence. It is just to bringer her down from her arrogant point of view of herself.
This technique should be applied to girls that are 8, 9 or 10s. Because these girls usually feel they are in control and become arrogant. It also should be applied when – for whatever reason – the girl thinks she has the upper hand or is in some way ‘better’ or ‘cooler’ than you and especially in situations where she is acting like a bitch.
When a girl knows she is pretty, say a nine or ten kind of good, and is with all her friends she feels the need to put on the BITCH act, it’s just logic. Truth is, it’s very unlikely she’s really like she’s pretending to be; pretend being the key word there.
Women do this for a few reasons. One; to shield their feelings, two; she has her standards she needs to keep when losers approach her. She uses the Bitch shield as a way of keeping men at a distance and testing them. Her method and skills are well known to her and she is focused on being the best bitch she can until someone brings her down to his level. Lots of men might even buy her drinks, but here’s a secret. She gets annoyed by that. While you’re thinking you’re being nice by getting her drinks she’s probably rolling her eyes and talking shit. She’s desensitized by it because she’s hot, she’s probably been getting that kind of attention since the time she was young.
Don’t think she won’t accept the drinks, she will. But here’s the thing; she’ll do this when she’s driven off all the attention she’d been getting and wants something new to play with for a few minutes. When she’s done toying she’ll find ways to get rid of you. Don’t be one of those guys that end up the butt of her and her friends’ laughs for the night.
If you’re thinking you’re different and can get in there go ahead and try. But don’t say I didn’t warn you. All this chick is saying when she lets you buy a drink, is that she doesn’t care about what you think, nor does she plan on respecting you, in fact, it’s more along the lines of “I’ll take it then you’re gone.” These women are expert at sniffing out the approaches. When she makes you feel small it’s nothing personal, just something she’s developed over the years from her daily routine of turning guys around, she’ll do the exact same thing to you.
This is why your approach should be a DISS and not a comment. You could insult these women because they’re used to it from all those guys that have come and gone over the years. I’m only going to say it again; don’t be one of those guys.
How do you neg or diss a Girl without actually insulting her?
Let’s be clear here, I’m talking about Hot-ass women in the 9 to 10 category. You Neghit a 5 or 6 and you’ll drag them down because they have really low Self-esteem issues.
Now think about this for a minute. Those nines and tens don’t want attention right, so why the hell they dress so sexy. Simple answer and one you should pay attention to; they like being in control. They know how guys react towards them and will enjoy watching men squirm and react to them. It’s just a control thing. Usually whenever a woman gets to control a guy she will take it. That feeling of wanting to be in control is worse when there’s a group of them. Since she will want to be the coolest in the group and get the attention, someone has to suffer. Basically men come and offer to buy her drinks and she enjoys knocking them down or flat-out rejecting him.
Your Strategy: You have to find something on her to pick on. Trust me on this one. You do not want to go complimenting and kissing her ass. She’ll just give you that fake smile, or worse yet, the eye rolls. You want to do something different to get her attention. But no ass kissing, she’s had years and years of that already, in fact, there’s probably some of them walking around the club you are or will be.
What you want to do is find something to pick on, anything will do. Imagine someone walking up to a hot woman and saying something like, “nice nails are they real?” If she says no, they can come back with, “Well, they still look good.” If you’re with friends you’re your back to her and start talking to them, if you’re alone then just go back to what you were doing before you said anything. Something like this will throw her off her perch because in her mind she looks dam good and you didn’t trip over your feet for her. Still, she won’t feel like she was insulted by the comment, just makes her feel a little unsure of what was said and what was meant. Also makes her a little self-conscious of herself because she didn’t get the usual kiss-ass compliment.
In her mind this is going to trigger a little alarm that has her wondering how you didn’t come off drooling. Hell every other man she meets does, but you didn’t she’s going to want to know what makes you resistant to her. She will come at you again because you’re now a target for her. No way you’re leaving without groveling.
She may say something in response to what you said. Smile, ignore what she says, and come up with another one like… “Is that a weave? Looks very nice… What hairstyle is that?” Keep smiling pleasantly. You want to show her that you’re being playful, not malicious. To her, you’re friendly and not interested in her looks, which creates an opening of sorts. She’ll be intrigued by your behavior because normal guys don’t behave like that. In her mind, you really have a taste for high-end women, or you’re simply unattainable. Basically you just put her in a position she’s not used to being in. You’ve got her point, set, and waiting to match.
Your line of neghit questions will have her curious. She will keep coming after you with comments and looks to see if you’ll change your stance. She’ll give you neghits of her own but don’t lose your cool. She’s only testing you to see if that’s really your personality. Just zing her back with neghits to match. Whatever you do, do not fall for it because she’s simply seeking to regain control of the situation. Desperation is the closest description at this point. She may even wear as far as to ask you to buy her a drink. DO NOT FALL FOR IT!!!! This is a ploy to get you to drop your guard and play the knight in shining armour, you buy her a drink and you’re done for.
This is damage control. You navigated her strikes and basically knocked her down a few notches. She’s feeling vulnerable and a bit inadequate and that’s where you want her. At this point, poke a little fun at her before you give her an answer. Find something cute about her that will make her laugh. Just laugh a little and say, “Ahhhh, that’s funny… your nose is moving when you talk.” (Make sure you point playfully). “Uh there it is again… It’s so cyuuute.” LOL, at this point she’ll probably blush and yell, “Stop it!”
You have now taken the bitch off her pedestal with a few neghits. The good thing is you didn’t insult her. You made her curious about you, you were smiling, and if you dress in a cool way that’s a plus. You also showed a lot of confidence the way you handled her =). 1 Point you 0 point her. She now sees a man she wants to get to know.
Ah yes, the answer. “See, I am not that type of guy. Guys who buy you drinks do it for only one reason – they think they get sex from you when they buy you drinks – but of course they don’t. Would you buy me a drink instead?” Now you flipped the script on her completely. Not a place she’s used to, not a place she ever thought she’d be. But if she really ends up buying you a drink it means she now FULLY respects you. If she doesn’t turn back to your friends or whatever you were doing, try to have you back to her.
How You Qualify Her
Negging is a nice way to qualify a woman for you. It lets her know that she fails to meet your standards. You’re not insulting her, you’re making a simple judgment based on what you like. The hotter they are the more you can dig in with Neghits. Simple process.
You can get a little over-the-top with the really hot women. You want to let them know you’re cooler than they are. You play the game until you pull the rug out from under her self-esteem. Don’t stop till you get her to the critical point and then push a little bit more till you’re sure you have her. That’s the way you get that hot woman with Good neghits. Should only take a few minutes to change her guard into curiosity, and then to Mutual respect. From there the seduction is almost sure. Just be sure not to start acting needy or lower your value by making stupid compliments when you have gotten her to that point.
Beauties for Negging
Make sure these chicks are 9 or 10s. Anything less you may end up destroying what little ego they have.
After you have negged her make sure you make it up to her with some cute talk or you could be in trouble. You do not want to leave her bitter. Some phrases you can use are:
“You’re an interesting woman / girl, or oh don’t worry I’ve seen worse.” 🙂 (Make sure you have a friendly smile so she knows you’re flirting)
“No really, I’ve seen girls that were uglier and I may allow you to date me.” (make sure you’re still smiling or give her any other indication that you are not serious)
“Okay – okay, I noticed you have a very nice body, that’s good enough to make up for everything else [Will make up for what you negged, ALL women like to hear how good they look]”
Here are some more examples:
“You’re almost as tall as I am. Tall women are hot (LIFT). Are those 5 or 6 inch heels (DROP)?”
“So cute, your nose moves when you are talking:)”
“You make that dress look good. Just yesterday I saw another girl in a bar with the exact same dress. So I can tell.”
“Oh woman, can I finish my story?”
“Oh dang… you just spit on me!” (while she’s talking)
“Your hair sort of looks ok” (Make sure to move your hands for emphasis)
“I think I may allow you to get to know me… maybe.”
HER: “Really, why is that?”
YOU: “I guess you may be too much of a really nice girl, you know.”
HER: (whatever, just know you have her at this point and ease her into closing the deal.)