Ok, guys I will share my method how I get a girl’s phone number basically every single time. Please note that asking for phone numbers is often not needed when you apply the seduction steps I am teaching on this site. But so many guys are asking me for this so I thought I’ll write down how I do it.
You are not going out to collect numbers but to seduce girls right there and then. You should only get a phone number if for some reason you cannot continue with your game – like if you really need to leave the place.
Of course you know that girls get asked for their number many many times. So there is a natural firewall that’s up and you just need to bypass this firewall. So you don’t say ‘Can you give me your number?’. No, that is a question and a question can always have a ‘no’ as an answer. You need to frame it in a way that she has no other option than giving her number or any other action would mean a lot more effort for her.
So here is how you do it:
Of course you need to talk to her first and build some kind of connection – even if it is just a small and casual connection. You will talk about something that makes her curious and then you stop and don’t continue. This will leave her curious. If she keeps asking reply that ‘this story’ would need more time to tell and this is not the right place. You will tell her another time.
Now at this point you have established an assumption. And this assumption is that you’ll see her again. Leave this assumption for now and continue talking about something else.
Then at some point you need to come up to her and say ‘Sorry I really would like to continue talking to you but I need to leave. But I’ll call you tomorrow around noon and tell you the rest of the story’ Of course you can vary this and put anything else in there. The main point here is that you state clearly that you will call her. And it is better to be specific about when.
Then you will start saying good bye to her friends (if they are around).
At this point she is obviously confused. You have assumed that you will talk again, then that you will call her but you don’t even have her number.
Don’t let that bother you. Keep saying good gye to her and give her a hug. Say that you really enjoyed talking to her.
At this point some girls will even give their number without you even asking for it. (The ones that are afraid that you just forgot to ask for her number).
This will now close the story and in her mind your promise of calling her will finally make sense. At this point it would be very unpolite for her to NOT give her number, since you already promised that you’ll call her and that there is more that you would like to tell her.
And now it gets even better: Instead of asking her to write down her number you simply type her first name into your cell phone as a new contact, put the cursor down to the number field and give your cell phone to her saying ‘Please type it here’. You don’t even need to mention the word ‘phone number’.
At this point she will hold your cell phone in her hand, see her name in your phone and the empty space with the blinking cursor.
The only option she now has is to type in her number to complete the entire thing.
I am sure you see that at this point there is no real option for her to do anything else than typing her number in there. She would need give you back the phone where her name was already put in with any empty space for the number and give you a really good excuse why she doesn’t want to give her number. Leaving her contact entry half done in your phone would feel kind of strange. Besides, you already promised to call her and she would make you break that promise you couldn’t finish the story that you already said you’ll tell her.
Some Psychology Background On This Technique
Why is this tactic working so incredibly well?
We are working with presuppositions and open ends. And not just one but several of them.
Open ends are like cliff hangers in a TV series. If we start something we want to see it completed. Otherwise a strange feeling is left inside us that there is something that is still open that needs to be closed for everything to be ok.
The first thing you start but don’t finish is the story you said you’ll continue ‘another time’.
The second open end you leave is the promise to call her – while clearly not having what you need to call her.
The third one is her name already added to your contacts in your cell phone with just the number missing.
And the final one is the phone in her hands with you saying ‘just type it in here’ – clearly assuming that you both have already agreed that she will type it in.
By typing in her number she is able to close all 4 open ends with one simple action. It would mean much more effort and resistance to give the phone back to you with her name empty and leaving all these ends you created unfinished.
And note: At no point anyone has ever used the words ‘Please’ or ‘give me’ or ‘phone number’. Everything is flowing so naturally completely bypassing her firewall.