It takes time to find that one special woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. Most importantly, before even committing to one specific woman, it is important for you to understand what is in store for you out there. For this reason, it is a good idea for you to date many women simultaneously-no strings attached-and then make up your mind on what’s best for you. To put it in other words, test the waters before taking the deep plunge. Here are some important things you need to know.
Lay down clear rules
If you are looking for a casual relationship without any commitment, you need to make this clear right from the start itself. You should set every possible boundary, conditions and expectations on the table right from day one so that you don’t end up being treated as a number one cheater with no notion of fidelity and respect for women.
If despite knowing your conditions, she still agrees to get on a relationship with you, then even if she ends up seeing you with other women later on, she won’t have the right to complain since she knew it right from the start what she was going to get when she embarked on this ‘relationship’. Besides, nowadays a lot of women don’t expect you to get down on your knees right from the first date itself but they do expect you to be open about your expectations.
Safety on both sides
You are out there to have some fun with beautiful women but remember that sleeping around comes with its own share of risks. Chances are that those women might be sleeping around too and have their own history of sexual diseases. To be on the safe side, always practice safe sex.
Additionally, the last thing you want to end up with while dating women is to have one of them fall pregnant. Pregnancy changes all the rules of the game especially if the girl in question does not want to have an abortion later on and is overwhelmed by the idea of finally becoming a mother-you don’t want this drama do you? Reason why you need to ensure that she is on pills.
Minimize on the romantic side
It’s one thing to keep things interesting and get things going for you and completely different to be romantic and have the girl fall head over heels for you, up to the point that she starts believing that you love her too. The moment this ‘love’ thing gets into the picture, you can put an end sign to your game.
In order to avoid confusion, it’s better to keep things modest, casual and fun at all times.
The most important rule when dating different women is under no circumstances are they allowed to sleep over no matter how late it might be. It all starts with one night and ends up being two nights a week until the next thing you know is that she is sharing your flat and making you coffee in the morning! If she gets into the (bad) habit of staying over, again she may take this wrongly as a sign that you might be seeking a serious relationship with her. To avoid all of this drama, it’s wiser to not let it happen in the first place.
If she happens to still be at your place late at night, make up an excuse to make her leave like tell her that you have to be up really early in the morning for some work or your maid will come to clean the house and you would rather be alone (lame excuse but it will be clear to her that you do not want her to stay over).
When she is leaving, ask her if she has taken all her things along and go round the house to pick up anything that she may have left over. Women have this bad habit of leaving their belongings behind-for one this gives them an excuse to meet you again and also, this is their own way of claiming their rights over you.
It’s important that you see to it that they have not left anything behind as it creates an awkward moment when your other girls come around and find girly stuffs around the house. It makes it more obvious that you are actually seeing other women, even if they may know it already. All this creates a messy situation and you do not want to be caught in all this drama.
No signs of jealousy
Get this clear-if you are dating other women, she has the right to see other men as well! It can’t always be about you sleeping around while she has to wait around like a faithful wife until you will make up your mind on whether or not you want to have a serious relationship with her or is it always going to be about sex.
When you know that she has been seeing other men, don’t show signs of jealousy and behave like she is legally your property! First of all, it’s totally immature for you to even behave like that, she will lose respect for you or she may find this absolutely cute and get the wrong idea that if you are jealous, then it means you care, and if you care, may be you love her too (you know that kind of linear thinking that women generally have).
Modesty and discreetness
You may be bedding beautiful women every day and consider yourself the alpha male in your group of friends, but bear in mind that the more you talk about it, the more likely this is likely to backfire at you. Keep your casual sex life discreet and don’t go bragging about it with every one you meet.
The last thing you will want to do is to brag about your sexual adventures with women you are dating! The moment you raise this topic with them, you will either end up hurting them and making them feel like a mere toy in your hands or simply end up on an emotional roller coaster ride which will end up having the women dictating new terms to this casual relationship-terms which you may not necessarily agree to!
That’s why after the initial discussion about the terms of this relationship, do not ever raise this topic again. You are out there to have fun, and not to get involved in anything serious, so stay out of serious topics of discussions.
Dating women casually is acceptable as long as you have laid down your rules right from the start itself but starting to treat them as your possessions is a sign of disrespect and you will ultimately lose them. If you want them to behave like your girlfriend and be with you only, then you need to man up and be ready to start a relationship with them.