How many times has it happened to you that you liked someone but for unknown reasons you were waiting for the ‘perfect time’ to come to ask her out and when you finally had the guts to do so, she was already out of your reach? Just in case you didn’t know (or perhaps never really took this seriously), the competition is fierce out there and women don’t stick around forever, waiting on you to make up your mind when to ask her out. Want to know how to ask a woman out and get a yes in almost all instances? Read on.
-Hit while the iron is still hot
The moment you realize you like her and would like to ask her about, muster up the courage and do it that very moment. Doing it immediately has many advantages. Firstly, the fact that you are attracted to her at this very moment acts as a drive and motivation to make you walk up to her and ask her out, she might be impressed with your confidence and say yes right away, especially now that she is still receptive to you. Waiting on will only increase her probability of her saying no since she may think that you are not that much into her ( who told you that the saying “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” applied to men only?) and she may end up in somebody else’s arms.
Additionally, not asking her out now will only mean torturing yourself with endless questions of whether or not she likes you and it’s simply a waste of time drooling over her pictures and fantasizing over her. You like her, so go out there and ask her out, the most she is likely to say is ‘NO’ right? That’s better than having to live in uncertainty and confusion-when you know she does not like you, you can move on and find somebody else.
-Formal courting is outdated
Don’t make such a big deal out of asking someone out-it only increases the tension and stress. Adopt a chill out, casual approach and rather than saying something as classy as, “I will be absolutely honored if your will grace my evening with your presence this Saturday”, you are more likely to be successful if you say something like “hey, if you don’t have anything planned for this Saturday maybe we can hang out together!”
There is nothing wrong in being formal and classy and propose in that gentleman-ly fashion but the thing is women who are not looking for anything serious and out there just to have some fun are likely to turn you down outright with this serious approach.
-Importance of time
We cannot stop emphasizing the importance of timing while asking a girl out. Before asking someone out, ask yourself if you would like someone to ask yourself out at that particular point in time and situation. Striking at the right time will definitely increase the odds of getting a YES from the girl.
Do not ask a girl out while she is in the middle of a serious conversation with other people and you just pop in out of nowhere and ask her out-this is totally awkward. Also, if you know she is not enjoying your company and you are running out of conversation topics with her, do not ask her out. You should ask her out when the timing is right-say she is alone and you walk up to her, start a conversation and ask her out or phone her at a time where you know she is free and available to talk.
If you are both in the middle of the conversation, amidst laughter and jokes, when you feel that she is enjoying every second of your company, that’s when you need to ask her out. If you find her staring deep in your eyes, already fantasizing what it’s like to be spending more time with you, that’s the right time to ask her out.
Again, don’t go for anything formal, be casual and have a laid back attitude, if she says no she’s busy; don’t take it personally and act desperate. You have to understand that she has her own schedule which means that she may not be available on the same day as you are. A refusal on her part may not necessary be because she does not like you, it could well be that she is honestly busy.
One way to work around this type of situation is to let her decide when she can fit you in her busy schedule. Women love men who are understanding right from the start and are not pushy. If she says she’s busy, tell her to give you a call whenever she is free to hang out.
-Plan the date
Do not ask her where she wants to go, instead plan everything ahead of time. Is she the kind of women who needs more effort and time to make the relationship progress or are you at the initial phase and she will need more information on you to be able to decide whether she wants to date you or not? Or if you are lucky enough, is she the kind you can take home (to bed) right on the first date itself? All these questions will help you determine the kind of date you need to have with her.
Also, at this point in your relationship, it’s better to avoid group dating as this does not allow you to know each other more or even give you the chance to get intimate. Besides it creates too much confusion in the girl’s mind-she may end up valuing your company more as a friend thereby leading you to be stuck in the friend zone!
The main points to remember here is that timing is very important when it comes to asking a girl out. If you take too long to ask her out or you simply ask her out at the wrong time, your chances of majestically being rejected will increase.