Basically, this is what the 3 second rule wants you to do. You see something you like? Go get it. No second thoughts, no hesitations, and no delays. Being shy and coy about it would only lead to failure in completing your mission. Hesitations would only cause you to think of reasons why you shouldn’t push through with it. It will give the ladies the opportunity to judge you in their minds. And yes they will judge you brutally. Are you handsome enough? Are you good enough? Do not give them this chance. It is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Let them perceive you as someone who is confident enough in their own skin and isn’t afraid to go after what he wants. Remember, girls want men, not weak boys.
Other men may try other things to get close to a woman. They may dance next to her or just happen to buy a drink right beside her. In the back of their heads they are expecting the slim chance that the girl may talk to them first, or this increases their chances with her. This is the cowardly way to do it and most often than not results in a disastrous mess of a man. The woman will see right through what you are trying to do and think of you as a bit pathetic. So your end game is pretty much ruined at this point.
3 seconds. That’s all the time you need. Just go for it. Even if she doesn’t see you coming, even if you just suddenly dropped out of nowhere, just do it. It won’t matter whichever corner or place you were in. It also doesn’t matter if you still have no idea what you’re going to do after you’ve approached her. Simply go with the flow. The only thing that does matter is that she will definitely notice you and see you as a real man. You went for it with all the confidence and bravado in the world. She likes that.
First impressions are very important. It is a crucial part in this game. You wouldn’t wanna be perceived as a guy who is weak, desperate, pathetic, insecure, and lacks confidence. Physical occurrences such sweating, heavy breathing, shaking, and stuttering all will contribute for them to perceive you as such. However, the rule was created to avoid this and if done properly will be your saving grace. By using only three seconds to make a move on a woman, you won’t have time to think. Thinking is bad in this situation because then you will realize your insecurities, how nervous you are, and all negative outcomes of what you are about to do. So by not thinking, you’ve done yourself a great favor. She will see you as a confident and daring fella, and that can only do you wonders.
There is no need for eye contact to apply the rule. She doesn’t even have to notice you. There are two moments that must coincide before the clock starts ticking: when you’ve attained your target and when she is open to be approached. These are very important to remember because it’s not all the time that the girl is free to make a move on or maybe you yourself are still preoccupied doing something else. Just remember when those two moments happen, that is your signal to make a move. Go make your move. No moment to spare, no delays, no hesitations, no second thoughts.
You wouldn’t want to end up like the guys who just fawn and drool over their object of affection. They’re too busy running in their heads every possible rejection and bad outcome that may happen. They are wasting their time and won’t get anything out of it. It really is just simple to approach someone. Don’t make a simple thing complicated. SPOT. 3 SECONDS. MOVE. Plain and simple. There is no perfect opportunity, timing and way to do it. Don’t wait for that to happen because no moment may come to that standard. Man up. Get up and go. Make your move in 3…2…1.